Who is The Technology of Connection for?

We can all use skills that make our relationships better, so The Technology of Connection is for everyone. It's for people who want to relate better and be happier, at home or at work or out in the world in any capacity. This includes singles, couples, friends, relatives, employees and employers - basically anyone who can talk and is over about the age of 14. The skills and understandings are absolutely useful to parents and kids who are even younger, but for kids under 14, I suggest learning in a private setting rather than a Workshop. I have couples, singles, parents and adult children attend.

What will I learn with The Technology of Connection, exactly?

You'll learn an eye-opening new way to understand your relationships and powerful, practical, transformational skills to improve them. You'll learn why we fight and what's going on within us when we do. You'll learn a reliable methodology that keeps us feeling safe and connected - and when we aren't (because we're human), for restoring ruptured connection. It's a new technology for relationships that's made possible by our newest understanding of brain and relational sciences. Anyone can learn it, and many are amazed by the benefit when they do.

Do I have to know anything or be in a struggling relationship before I learn The Technology of Connection?

No. You don't have to know anything, be in a relationship, be in a ditch in a relationship, consider yourself spiritual or anything else like that to improve the way you relate. Everyone can benefit. It doesn't require that you know your "attachment style" or your "love language" or have done therapy, though I promise there'll be important realizations about yourself! All it requires is an open mind, a willingness to learn, and the desire to improve your relationships and thus your life.

How was The Technology of Connection born?

Like most of us, I experienced painful wounding within my relationships as a kid and a young adult. I was an unhappy, young Big Law finance attorney struggling to create a healthy relationship when my mother died after a long illness of the body (breast cancer) and heart (intimate betrayal). I tried to outrun the pain by living as an expat in a faraway land, but my soul yearned for answers. In an exploration that lasted decades, I became entranced by the work of Drs. Harville and Helen Hendrix - New York Times bestselling relationship experts and founders of Imago Relationship Therapy - and started to apply their ideas as well as others into my own relational life. After changing careers and opening a clinical healing practice in 2010, I began to amalgamate a relational technology that drew from my own practice and study in the fields such as ministry, psychology, chaplaincy and end of life work. When these life changing relational tools put into practice - not therapy - save my 11 year relationship with my life partner George, I felt called to formalize them in a form shareable with others. For more about my journey, here's my bio.

What's your vision for The Technology of Connection?

The Technology of Connection is a skill set that brings us the understanding of why we humans fight and the skills to both reconnect more quickly and prevent disconnection from happening in the first place. In today's age of strife and division, war and abuse of power - all symptoms of misaligned human relationships - it's my hope that The Technology of Connection will so permeate the culture that we move into a new age of relational respect - where deliberate infliction of pain is unthinkable and kindness, cooperation and empathy pervade our interactions and aspirations.